The purpose for living inside of a defensive survival strategy has vanished.
You have the capacity to shift from defending yourself to expanding yourself, from surviving to living.
It is up to you to wake up about what you are creating through your survival strategy.
Keeping your Adult Ego State Contaminations has a high cost.
Have you paid that price long enough?
YOUR ADULT EGO STATE IS CONTAMINATED
You have no idea what you are creating because you are Contaminated.
Certain movements, behaviors, ideas, beliefs, ways of speaking come through your Gremlin instead of your Adult Ego-State.
For example, you are smiling even if you are not glad. You are smiling to appear to be nice, to look harmless, to charm people, to be 'in' with the cool people, to soften the clarity of what you have to say... Your Gremlin smile is covering another feeling, and you do not even notice it. You smile automatically.
This is Contamination.
The Gremlin Ego-state is the set of behaviors, sentences, ideas, beliefs, patterns, etc., that are temporary. This is why the set is called a 'state'. It is called 'Ego' because you are identified with this set of patterns, behaviors, ideas, beliefs, etc.
The Contamination Survival Strategy is effective - you survived - however, it takes a year or more of very precise Decontamination work before you can stabilize in Adulthood and start exploring the Archetypal Domains. Almost no one in the world knows about this yet.
We have figured out a precise Decontamination procedure, simple but not easy. You cannot do it alone. Please get into a Decontamination 3Cell or Decontamination Team and do the work with the support of feedback and coaching of others. It will change your life and give you a future you may never have believed possible.
We truly stand behind the Adult Ego State Decontamination Work. Please do it thoroughly. Please prepare yourself by doing Gremlin Training first.
Your Adult Ego State is most likely Contaminated by more than one other Ego State: the Child Ego State, Parent Ego State, Gremlin Ego State, and possibly even with the Demon Ego State.
The more Contaminations that occupy your Adult Ego State, the less space there is for you.
You may go through many Healing or Initiatory processes but things stay the same for you.
You do not have enough ground in the Adult Ego State to experience or deliver Transformation.
THE KEY IS DISCERNING YOUR BEHAVIOR PATTERNS
During Decontamination processes, we investigate patterns.
A pattern is a behavior, sentence, belief, way of relating, idea, way of speaking, etc., that you keep repeating, even without knowing why.
When your Adult Ego State has Contaminations, you are not aware of which patterns are coming from your Gremlin, Child, Parent or Demon Ego State. You think it is you who is speaking, feeling, acting... but it is not. This causes you to keep creating unintended and probably unwanted results in your life and in your relationships, both personal and professional.
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Map of Decontamination made in an Expand The Box Training, October 2020
Map of the Decontaminated Adult Ego State from the 2022 revised English version of the Conscious Feelings book by Clinton Callahan
Map of Four Emotions and Six Ego States from the 2022 revised English version of the Conscious Feelings book by Clinton Callahan
NOTES FROM A DECONTAMINATION COACH
The Adult Ego State Decontamination research is new in Possibility Management. We discovered the radical necessity of Decontamination in April 2019 in Germany at the first Trainer Path gathering. Since the beginning we have tried different approaches to empower one another to go through these 3 Phase Healing and Adulthood Initiatory processes.
As one of the few Possibility Coaches who has been Specializing in Adult Ego State Decontamination, and as someone who is training other Possibility Coaches to deliver this profoundly life-changing evolutionary work, I have been studying the results of people trying to do Decontaminations on their own, and also the limitations of the 3Cells working together to support each other's Decontaminations.
For these reasons - combined with the discovery that Decontamination is so fundamentally important to other Authentic Adulthood Healing and Initiatory Processes, such as those delivered in Possibility Labs - the current Decontamination Coaches are training more Decontamination Coaches in a committed Decontaminator Training. Based on our experiences so far, we strongly recommend that anyone wanting Adult Ego State Decontaminations engage the process with a Trained Decontamination Coach.
We also strongly recommend that you create a 3Cell especially to support you through your Adult Ego State Decontaminations, and, that the other members of your 3Cell are simultaneously doing the Adult Ego State Decontamination with a Decontamination Coach - although it need not necessarily be the same Decontamination Coach.
Decontamination Coaches are people who have already created a clear collaborative relationship with their Initiated Gremlin, have done a real chunk of their own Adult Ego State Decontamination with a Decontamination Coach, are enthusiastically continuing their Decontamination Practices, and have amassed enough Archearchal Matrix, Distinctions and Transformational Spaceholding to skillfully deliver coaching, personal support, and nonlinear / unreasonable possibilities so that the Client can walk the Path.
During Decontamination you will also need a Team to Hold Space for your Emotional Healing Processes. This could be a weekly EHP Dojo, or the online Telegram EHP Collaboration Group (link to join the Telegram Group: http://t.me/joinchat/WC5Px3vhJLpGU-Cz). Do not expect the two others in your 3Cell to navigate all of your Decontamination Emotional Healing Processes (EHPs), because they will be needing to go through their own EHPs.
I found that often the people in the 3cell do not clearly recognize the unconscious patterns at work. I recommend that you choose your 3Cell mates with particular care to avoid choosing people whose Boxes have similar defense strategies as yours, or with Gremlins who like to play with each other and will therefore protect each other from change.
We cannot overstate how important it is for you to do whatever it takes to Decontaminate your Adult Ego State from the Parent, Child, Gremlin, and Demon Ego States. If you could only see us now, we are jumping up and down on the table waving our hands and shouting it out as loudly as we can! Nobody ever taught us about Ego State Contamination before, and it destroys the best that life has to offer.
It is true that by blending Parent, Child, Gremlin, or Demon behaviors into your Adult Ego State you can quite easily manage to survive through whatever is thrown at you during your childhood and adolescent years. Parents, teachers, bullies, police... no one can touch you when you are shielded by these powerful defensive and offensive tactics. Contaminating your Adult Ego State is incredibly effective as a Survival Strategy, that is, until you become eighteen years old. After that the Contamination Survival Strategy is incredibly effective at hindering you from coming to life as an Initiated Free And Natural Adult.
With the Parent, Child, Gremlin, or Demon parts controlling your feelings, your face, your voice, your actions, your attitudes and behaviors... you are not there. You are fully guarded by an unbreachable defense against Presence and Vulnerability. You remain radically untouchable. The result is that Adult and Archetypal intimacies forever elude you. In this condition you cannot even imagine the cost of being cut off from Adult and Archetypal intimacies and ecstasies.
Almost no one in the world yet recognizes the importance of Decontaminating your Adult Ego State from Parent, Child, Gremlin, or Demon Ego States.
This condition is newly distinguished by Possibility Management Trainer Guild researchers. We wish to spread this information and these procedures as quickly and widely as possible. We would shower you with gratitude if you can help us publish Articles, make videos of processes, write Books, get us into talk shows with Dr. Phil or Dr. Oz, whatever you can to share these life-changing Possibilities.
ADULT EGO STATE DECONTAMINATIONS
The procedure for decontaminating your Adult Ego State is simple and straightforward, although not easy. In fact, it is so challenging that even though no one can do it for you, you cannot do it alone. You need a Team of two or three allies who are also Decontaminating their Adult Ego State with the direct support of a Decontamination Coach, who will stand at your side and back you all up during the processes.
STEP 1: For this Experiment, title a new page in your Beep! Book: DECONTAMINATING MY ADULT EGO STATE. Make important notes to yourself from reading through the website http://decontaminations.mystrikingly.com.
STEP 2: Then write the word SYMPTOMS on your Beep! Book page. List as clearly and thoroughly as you can your personal symptoms of Parent Contamination, Child Contamination, Gremlin Contamination, and Demon Contamination.
STEP 3: Once you have listed your first appraisal of your contamination symptoms, take this question to your Possibility Team: “In what ways is my Adult Ego State contaminated by my Parent, Child, Gremlin, and Demon Ego States?” First read the symptoms you have observed in yourself. Then ask for 20 minutes of their time and attention to share what subtle behaviors they can perceive in you about each of the four possible contaminations. Write down exactly what they say, even if you do not understand it, even if you violently disagree with what they say.
STEP 4: After that, ask, “Based on your observations of me, which contamination is biggest?” Decide that whichever they say is the biggest, is actually the biggest. Commit yourself out loud to start with decontaminating that contamination first. Say, “I now begin my Decontamination with the (Child, Parent, Gremlin, Demon).”
STEP 5: A person can only proceed with one Decontamination at a time. Trying more than one does not work. We have tried it. The process becomes immediately too confusing while one Ego State tries to defend the others through creating confusion and sneaky sabotage. Usually the biggest contamination is from Child or Gremlin, sometimes Parent, rarely Demon. If the biggest is Demon, you should immediately skip this Experiment and implement the procedure described in S.P.A.R.K. 135 which is given on the website http://triggerhunter.mystrikingly.com. For Child, Parent, or Gremlin Decontamination, proceed as follows.
STEP 6: Create a Decontamination 3Cell for yourself. A ‘3Cell’ is a temporary Team of 3 allies with a shared purpose: to support all 3 members to make a leap to expanded potentials of Adulthood.
STEP 7: Contamination shows up as enacting a behavior from one Ego State within a different Ego State. The toxic effects of contamination occur from enacting Child, Parent, or Gremlin behaviors when in the Adult Ego State. At your first online or offline 3Cell meeting, ask your Team which of your contamination behaviors to begin with. It should be one of the most apparent behaviors and yet one of the simplest. For example, let us suppose that your Child Ego State is your biggest contaminator. A first behavior to work with might be your little girl/boy nice-person smile, or that you do not look directly in people’s eyes, or that you rock up onto your toes when you speak, or that you fidget with your hair or clothing, or that you leave little messes around for others to clean up, or that you do not keep your promises on time, etc. rather than a bigger Child Ego State behavior such as being adaptive, giving your center away, not taking a risk to contribute new ideas for fear of looking stupid, or not asking critical questions in the group and then powerlessly complaining afterwards. These are contamination behaviors that can only be decontaminated after you have built up some decontamination legitimacy and momentum through separating out smaller behaviors first. STEP 7 is to choose your first behavior to Decontaminate.
STEP 8: Begin Decontamination. Decontamination means to focus your attention on noticing each time you are about to enact the chosen behavior, and instead, use your intention to move that behavior back into its appropriate Ego State and hold it there. This does not mean to shift out of the Adult Ego State and enact the Child, Parent, or Gremlin behavior. This means to stay in the Adult Ego State, move the impulse for the behavior back to the Child, Parent, or Gremlin Ego State where it came from, and deposit the impulse there without enacting the behavior. Relocating the impulse will at first occupy almost all of your available attention, intention, and will. And, at the beginning, as soon as you release the hold on your impulse, it will sneakily slide back into your Adult Ego State as a contamination again as if it were pulled there by an elastic band. But it is not. The contamination returns to your Adult Ego State through fear and habit, mostly habit. No matter. The Decontamination Practice is to focus entirely on this one tiny impulse to behave a particular way (for example, the urge to make a pointless good boy/girl smile, the urge to make an evil little Gremlin comment or joke…) and EVERY TIME THE IMPULSE APPEARS, move it back to its rightful home before it shows up on your face or comes out your mouth. This is simple. This is clearly measurable. This is possible. You are not fighting against nature. Gremlin behaviors belong in the Gremlin Ego State. Child behaviors belong in the Child Ego State. Parent behaviors belong in the Parent Ego State. Simply put things back where they belong. STEP 8 is to begin the Decontamination practice of moving impulses back into their proper Ego State.
STEP 9: Your fist behavior Decontamination is the most significant. It will take the most repetitions, and the most effort to catch the impulse and move it to its rightful Ego State before the behavior can show itself in the Adult Ego State. STEP 9 is each time you allow your impulse to fulfill itself as a contamination rather than moving the impulse before it manifests back into its proper Ego State, apologize. EVERY TIME you actually do the Gremlin, Child, or Parent behavior from the Adult Ego State, choose a person near you and say out loud, “I apologize for delivering a Child / Gremlin / Parent Ego State behavior from my Adult Ego State. I will not do this any longer.” People may not understand how important this is for you. That does not matter. Trying not to appear crazy, or trying not to disturb someone by only speaking into the limitations of their current ability to understand is adaptive behavior, typical of the Child Ego State. By its very nature, Decontamination is your effort to break your own rules. Nonetheless, your Decontamination work may make a few people uncomfortable, and to some people you may appear to be a little insane or neurotic. NOTE: If having to apologize is not a strong enough penalty, the next level is that each time you deliver a contaminated behavior, give the person you apologize to one dollar in cash. If it gets to this level, you will need to start carrying around a bundle of one-dollar bills with you. Keep checking in with your 3Cell about how this is going.
STEP 10: When your selected contamination behavior stays in its home Ego State for 3 full days after you put it there, it is time to select your next behavior impulse to Decontaminate. The procedure is exactly the same as before, although you should still keep a percentage of your attention on your first behavior to make sure it does not escape and try to contaminate you again.
This is how it goes. Behavior after behavior, one behavior at a time, relocate the impulses back into their appropriate Ego State before they manifest, and hold them there until they stay home of their own accord. The behaviors actually feel more comfortable when they originate from their home Ego State.
Most Decontaminators find that once their simple behavior impulses are relocated out of the Adult Ego State, the bigger, deeper, and more complex contaminations become manageable to relocate without so much tendency to fooling yourself about whether you are actually Decontaminating or not. When the biggest contaminating Ego State is removed from the Adult Ego State, for example the Child Ego State is removed, then you immediately switch to the next contaminating Ego State, say the Gremlin Ego State, and keep doing the Decontamination practice, again, one behavior at a time until it stays home by itself.
There will come a moment when the balance of Adult Ego State presence and power tips over so the Adult Ego State has majority vote and is not contaminated any more. This is when the Adult world opens up. This is an astonishing and revelatory experience, a ‘pole shift’ event. The world starts working differently for you – the way it is designed to work – where possessions and actions that seemed of the highest importance suddenly fade as if they were a mirage, and new perceptions and relations which were previously inaccessible and therefore irrelevant give you the utmost reward. When your 5 Bodies are balanced out in your daily activities and your Adult Ego State is Decontaminated, a doorway to the Archetypal Domains stands open as if it has always been waiting to welcome you. Here is where the great adventures begin. Here is where a sense of the miraculous enters your everyday life.
WARNING: Your 3Cell Team never becomes unimportant. If you ever find yourself absentmindedly disconnecting from your 3Cell, we suggest that you immediately suspect that your Gremlin is busily trying to hijack your life back into the unconscious contaminated condition before you learned about 'all this stupid stuff'. Thinking that you can remain unconscious and irresponsible about having adopted an Adult Ego State contamination Survival Strategy, or that a contaminated Adult Ego State 'does not really matter', or that your contaminated Ego State 'will correct itself after a while'… are all Fantasy Worlds. Living in a Fantasy World is a personal choice. A tsunami of Reasons may wash through your mind about why your 3Cell members are idiots, why there is some secret hierarchy in Possibility Management, why all these next culture ideas are overwhelming, why nobody but you can be trusted. What we have found is that in each person’s successful Adult Ego State Decontamination there was a phase when it became more important for them to trust their 3Cell more than the Voices in their head. This was certainly true for me (Clinton Callahan). I have said it before and I will say it again, my Decontamination 3Cell saved my life by giving me a more authentic adult life than I could ever have arranged for myself in my Gremlin contaminated condition.
For more than one year now I have been aware of my major Child Ego State Contamination in my Adult Ego State. The first few layers of Decontaminating the Child were simple enough, yet at this time last year I hit a wall. It seemed that my Parent Ego State Contamination was blocking the process of Decontaminating the Child Ego State out of my Adult Ego State.
So I stopped.
I shifted to working on the Parent Decontamination instead, and life as I knew it blew up.
I had no idea just how much I was living under the dictatorship of pressure and rules and 'shoulds'. I discovered layers and layers of Memetic Constructs, plus sensations generated by the Parent Ego State that totally suffocated the Child Ego State in me. I did many EHPs, and discovered that I have never in my life actually been able to be a child. My Thoughtware firmly asserted that being a child was wrong. I pressured myself into growing up before I ever even explored how to play in the world. (I have huge grief about forcing myself to destroy this opportunity, Believing that this was the only way I could Survive my childhood.)
So, as part of the parent decontamination, I have been experimenting with letting the Child Ego State have a voice. Letting the Child come out. It has been excruciating for my internalized Parent Ego State to watch it, to let it out even though all of my survival instincts are screaming, "No!"
Last Wednesday, I decided to do the experiment to be the Child for one full day. I consciously decided to let her have the reins. I spoke with my friends and colleagues that live with me, and asked them to hold space for me to do this experiment.
It was hell.
It was total irresponsibility in action. My Child Ego State does NOT want to do anything that anybody asks of her. She has NO soft skills, NO interest in communication, and does NOT care about relating to other people. She can NOT clean up the messes that she leaves behind, and HATES to do anything other than the spontaneous irresponsible play that arises in the moment. She gets moody and easily triggered into emotional Reactivity.
This was terrifying for my 'good girl' Box that wants to be 'perfect' and seen as 'responsible' and 'conscious' and 'awake'. During many moments, I had to interfere with the Child in order to not completely destroy the relationships that are so dear to me.
If this Resonates with you and you want to hear more about my Process, feel free to reach out.
Spaceholders: Vera Luísa Franco, Sophia Magdalena Hofmann, & Ana Norambuena.
The Decontamination process is a simple and long-refined process to un-fuse each physical, mental, emotional, energetic, and archetypal pattern from the adult ego-state.
In this training we will develop skills, learn distinctions, and create new practices and experiments to grow matrix so that the coaches can better hold a Discovery and Possibility space for others doing the Decontamination process.
The Decontamination Coaches will have the opportunity to work with clients with different levels of matrix, including colleagues.
This means that the Coaches will also be working on their own decontamination.
Price: 200-380 Euros sliding scale for the 8 weeks.
Gremlin Training Online: Prerequisite for Decontaminations
Gremlin Training Group
...for radically transforming your relationship with your Gremlin.
(Gremlin Training is an important prerequisite for Decontamination)
8 weeks - 26 August- 14 October 2021
Thursdays 16:00-18:00 GMT+0
This training is designed to give you clarity, distinctions, and practice
that will prepare you for the work of Decontaminating your Adult Ego State.
Some of what we’ll work on together includes:
• Discovering your top Gremlin foods, building a diet, and getting regular feedback and coaching on the diet. • Healing the 'Gremlin is bad' meme. • Distinguishing between Box, Being, and Gremlin. • Giving your Gremlin High-Level Fun jobs to do that serve your Archetypal Lineage and the world. • Practicing using a 3Cell to effectively and ongoingly transform your relationship to your Gremlin. • Using your Gremlin to practice going where your Box cannot go.
Price: 120-200 Euros sliding scale for the 8 weeks.
Memorize The Ego State Map For Your Decontamination
Matrix Code: DECONTAM.01
An Ego-state is a set of behaviors, sentences, ideas, beliefs, patterns, etc., that are temporary. This is why the set is called a 'state'. It is called "Ego" because you are identified with the set of patterns, behaviors, ideas, beliefs, etc.
Each Ego-state has specific characteristics, as shown on the website.
Learn Everything You Can About Adult Ego State Contamination
Matrix Code: DECONTAM.02
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Give A WorkTalk About Decontaminating The Adult Ego State
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Keep A Decontamination Diary In Your Beep! Book
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Shift Your Identity From Having An Ordinary Personality To Being A Journeyer
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Study Up About Your Gremlin For Your Decontamination
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An Ego-state is a set of behaviours, sentences, ideas, beliefs, patterns, etc., that are temporary. This is why the set is called a 'state'. It is called "Ego" because you are identified with the set of patterns, behaviours, ideas, beliefs, etc.
Each Ego-state has specific characteristics, as shown on the website.
Put Your Gremlin On A Conscious Gremlin Diet
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Distill Your Survival Strategy
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Become Unhookable With Regards To Your Ego States
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Trekking All 3 Worlds During Decontamination
Matrix Code: DECONTAM.10
You ongoingly inhabit 3 worlds, whether you are conscious of it or not.
The Middle World is one of material things, logistics and caring for your body.
Including 4 Feelings And 4 Emotions In Your Decontamination
Matrix Code: DECONTAM.11
Pain is the experience that we have when instead of expressing and experiencing our feelings, we keep them inside of us. The results of suppressing and stuffing our feelings and emotions is pain. When you learn to express and experience your feelings, that sensation of pain will vanish.
There's a lot to learn about feelings and emotions that modern culture doesn't teach about. You can start this journey by reading the 4 Feelings Bubble and the 4 Emotions Bubble. Please read both. You will be stuck if you read one without the other.
Contamination of your Adult Ego-state with other Ego-states include the contamination of your 4 adult feelings of anger, sadness, fear and joy with the emotions of anger, fear, sadness, and joy of your child, gremlin or parent ego state. You untangle it the same way you tangles it.
Find The Experience Of Your Contamination
Matrix Code: DECONTAM.12
Contamination of your adult ego state with other ego state can only be experienced in Experiential Reality.
Experiential Reality is the realm of being in the experience of things, instead of "being" in the naming of things.
You might understand in your mind that one of your 5 bodies or your adult ego state is contamination because you have symptoms that matches the description. You cannot do anything about it until you can experience your contamination - which you are right - might be painful.
It helps to know that the experience that we call 'pain' is often suppressed feelings and emotions.
Detect Your Contamination In All 5 Bodies
Matrix Code: DECONTAM.13
Contamination of your adult ego state with another ego state happens in all 5 bodies.
Intellectual body, has thoughts, ideas, opinions, stories, conclusions, expectations. It is made of the mind that is itself made out of thoughtware.
Physical body, has sensations of cold, warmth, pressure, texture, tingling, pain and pleasure, etc... It is made out of organs, tissues, and liquids.
Emotional body has feelings and emotions. It is made out of our heart.
Energetic body has perceptions at the energetic level (intention, purpose, spaces, etc...). It is made out of subtle energetic planes that live in and around our physical body, 2-5 cm beyond it.
Archetypal body embodies archetypal forces and characters for the benefit of serving the archetypal lineage. It is made out of archetypal energy experiential distinctions.
Find 18 Contamination Behavior Patterns By Self Observation
Matrix Code: DECONTAM.14
Title a new page in your Beep! Book: MY FIRST 18 PATTERNS.
Make CERTAIN that your Self Observation is neutral, free of self-criticism and self-judgement. Make no stories about what you notice. Merely observe with full attention. See what you are actually up to.
We have discovered that there is a connection between Adult Ego State Contamination as a Survival Strategy and the White Widow Survival Strategy.
The connection is that the Decontamination procedures are very similar.
If you are Decontaminating your Adult Ego State and / or extricating yourself from White Widow, please document your experiences and share what you learn as widely as possible, also with professionals.